I always find it interesting to hear what people have to say, about life in general but mostly about why it is they â€œcanâ€™t â€œ achieve their goals or get things done or make things work or most importantly lose weight.
Before I continue, I think I should explain how I know so much about this topic. In July of 2007 I weighedÂ 315 lbs. For the 12 years before that, I tried every gimmicky diet and had every excuse in the book as to why I couldnâ€™t lose weight. The only place I managed to lose weight was in my wallet from all of the stupid shit I tried.
This July 2012 marked my 5 year anniversary of not weighing 315lbs, in fact over the past 5 years I have lost 140 lbs (so far). I say â€œso farâ€ because I consider myself a work in progress, Iâ€™m always setting new goals for myself and pushing myself harder, just because I know that I can.
â€œ… Iâ€™ve been working out and Iâ€™m just not seeing the results I want, but I CANâ€™T not eat sugar or fast food or cut back on drinking, especially in the summerâ€
Iâ€™m pretty sure if you asked yourself, and I mean honestly asked yourself…you would see that itâ€™s not that you canâ€™t do something itâ€™s that you are choosing NOT to do something. It could be fear based, it could be that you are not really ready or it could be because you simply donâ€™t want it bad enough.
When it comes down to it you need to ask yourself how bad you really want something. If youâ€™re starting out of the gate by saying â€œI canâ€™tâ€ chances are you donâ€™t want it bad enough and you will give up before you even start. Or like most people you will start off crazy strong and then give up because youâ€™re not getting the instant gratification that you are looking for. I hate to break it to you but there is NO magic pill.
This is where perseverance comes in. A person with perseverance uses failure as a tool to attain success and such a person learns from that failure, rather than be discouraged by it. With perseverance, achieving success is just a matter of time; sooner or later you are going to achieve your goal if you stick with it. Keywords there â€” STICK WITH IT.
( v persevere [pÉ™ËsiËˆviÉ™]to continue to (try to) do something in spite of difficulties)
If I gave up every time I hit a roadblock or got injured or didnâ€™t lose as much weight as I wanted chances are, Iâ€™d still be 315 lbs. In fact it took me 12 years of life to figure out that I had to stop making excuses and buying into stupid gimmicks and quick fixes oh and of course saying â€œI canâ€™tâ€. Looking back I know that the real problem was that I just didnâ€™t want it bad enough at the time, because that would have required change and change is hard.
Donâ€™t give up just because you donâ€™t automatically see the results you think you should be seeing. The important thing to remember is that a little progress every day adds up to big results; donâ€™t give up what you want most for what you want now.
Written by: Brenda McKinney, NSCA-CPT, RHN (in training)