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Weight Loss Motivational Tips & Advice – Falling Forward

For so long I was defined by being a failure.  I tried so many times to lose weight.  I was NOT happy with myself.  I know so many people say you should love yourself the way you are but the reality is that I made myself the way I was.

I wasn’t made that size.  I ATE myself to that size.

But now that I was there, I just couldn’t seem to get out of it.  Every monday morning would roll around and it would be that infamous New Years Resolution that THIS was going to be THE week!  Then Tuesday would roll around and I’d be back to my old lifestyle.

There were times where I felt like this was just the way I was and that I just needed to accept that fact.

This is failure.

Choosing to stay down.  Choosing to let an outside force (the need to over eat) dictate how you are going to live your life.

I understand what it’s like to be addicted to food.  To not be able to say no.  I know what it’s like to eat nothing all day to appear like “I just can’t lose weight” but then go home and absolutely lose it on food.  The self medication of food to hide the pain of how I feel.  I know that feeling and it’s the worst feeling in the world.  There is so much shame attached to it and it’s just a downward spiral with no feeling like you can ever get out.

You don’t have to be defined by failure!

The only thing it takes to not be defined by failure is the willingness to get back up.  You may not come out on top the first time, but at least you are willing to get back up.  You may be staggering or crawling to your feet, but you get back up.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve fallen down.  How many times I’ve failed.

But failing isn’t the same as being a failure.

Failing is THE thing that leads to success.

Okay, so some people just walk right into success without ever experiencing failure.  But that’s not most of us.  We are going to fail.  We are going to fall down.  The question remains what we will do with it?

It took Thomas Edison over 5,000 “failed” attempts to create the lightbulb.  Imagine if he quit?

I always use the term “Fail Forward“.

You ARE going to trip and fall, just fall forward.  You’re going to make mistakes, just make sure you make them in a forward motion.  So when you get back up, you’re further along than you were when you made the mistake.

This is the process of tortoise.  But this is the More Than Gold way.  In order for you to make it with our coaching, you have to be resilient.  You have to get back up.  It could be that one last attempt at getting back up that leads you to success.

The only time you become a failure is when YOU choose to not get back up.

So fail forward, and get back up.  Don’t wait for January first.

Make “someday”, today!

I'm the husband of the world's greatest wife, daddy of the most amazing kids I could ask for and head coach of More Than Gold Coaching. I love my life and wouldn't trade in a single thing!

3 Comments

  1. Kelly

    June 21, 2013 at 4:01 am

    Dan, this article resonates with me in so many ways! The first step for me was to take responsibility for my own life and stop blaming others. The second step was to make the commitment to a achieve my fitness goals an accept that the road would be long and hard.

    I love the ‘fail forwards’ concept. You are so right. Failure is the first step towards success, as long as you don’t give up.

  2. Richard Harrison

    December 22, 2010 at 2:59 pm

    A great article Dan and a damned good slogan. It’s like when you’re standing at the bottom of the hill looking up at all those people on top and finally realizing they didn’t fall up there.

    -richard

  3. [email protected] Workouts

    December 22, 2010 at 8:19 am

    This is awesome, Dan, and totally 100% true. Unless we expect to get thinks perfect on our first attempt, then we must have the “fail forward” mindset. If we give up after our first attempt at anything worth achieving we set ourselves up for a miserable life.

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