How to open up and discuss sexual health!

Remember when only big-shot executives had cell phones? For that matter, remember when nobody had cell phones? In a matter of less than two decades, our world has totally transformed the way it sees communication.

And it’s time for a second revolution. But instead of simply talking on mobile phones more, we need to start talking about our sexual health. Why? At a time when sexuality in all its forms is becoming more widely accepted by the American mainstream, discussions about sex and sexual health aren’t as common as they need to be.

Don’t believe me? Look at the numbers:

  • Right now, about 16.2% of the country has genital herpes. That translates to almost one in six people with herpes! And this is an STD that doesn’t ever go away. (It can be treated, though.)
  • Each year, 2.8 million Chlamydia infections occur. One reason the number is so high: many men are symptom-free and don’t realize they’re infected. Without getting an STD test or treatment, they can keep re-infecting their partners.
  • Gonorrhea strikes 700,000 people every year. Luckily, this is one STD that can be cured with treatment – but only if people realize they have it.
  • HPV (human papillomavirus), which can cause cervical cancer in women, affects about half of all sexually active people at some point. At any given time, approximately 20 million Americans have the STD.
  • About 25% of teenage girls have an STD.

How to Talk about Sexual Health

Sex and money are two of the most important things to discuss with a significant other – predictably, they’re two of the hardest subjects to broach. Here are some pointers that should make starting the conversation a little easier.

  • You go first. Forget the playground rules of politeness. When it comes to matters of STD testing and treatment, it’s usually a good idea to start by talking about your own history. That way, your partner is less likely to fee like the conversation is accusatory. For example, you might start things off by mentioning that your last STD test came back clean and then ask about your partner’s.
  • Don’t wait till you’re in bed. Most people don’t find talking about STD prevention all that sexy. And bringing up the issue in the heat of the moment might not actually lead to any better decision-making. Instead, broach the subject when you and your partner are in a relaxed environment.
  • Make it topical. A quick search of an online news aggregator should bring you dozens of news stories about STDs and sexual health. Starting a conversation with a phrase like “I saw online today” or “I heard on the news today” can help make the issue feel less personal than it otherwise might.

Intimacy & Respect Start with a Chat

Remember: sexual health is a matter that affects both you and your partner, now and in the future. Even if you don’t plan on staying with someone forever, you can give them (or get from them) an STD that could stay with you the rest of your life.

How’s that for commitment?

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3 thoughts on “How to open up and discuss sexual health!

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  • July 22, 2011 at 12:19 am

    Good article up there. Both women and men should pay close attention to sex heath and avoid STDs.
    They can try kegels; Sports are surely good for men. Sexual functional problems are nightmare for them. There are lots of reasons for couples to divorce. The most seen reason is sex-related one. If a man has sexual functional problems, improve this bad situation immediately! Try kegels; my wife also got me kamagra and well i am now a regular customer and she is more than happy!

  • July 3, 2011 at 7:30 pm

    Nice Article,Open up and talk about “Sexual health” is necessary and a way to learn knowledge about CX and prevent sexual transmission. “CX” is Sensitive word expecially in some developing and conservative countries.I am working for a dating website hloving,com,My customers are the guys who got STD.I know some people do not dare to have its STD test when feeling themselves have got some STD.and many people feel shameful to talk about CX topic and make the info closed,which is not a good thing sometimes.


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